Things Guys Say To Avoid Using Condoms
Decades of research in sexual health has revealed that people do not practice safe-sex consistently. Of course, part of the reason for this is because condoms are not always available when people want to have sex. Other contributing factors include negative attitudes toward condoms and an inability to find condoms that fit well. However, one of the more disturbing reasons people sometimes forego protection is because they are convinced by their sexual partners that they should not use condoms. Indeed, one study of college students found that 49% of the women surveyed reported that a sexual partner had previously persuaded them to not use condoms on at least one occasion [1]. Building upon this finding, a new study published in the Journal of Sex Research reveals some of the more common persuasion tactics men employ in order to resist condom use with their female partners [2].
On the topic of consciousness raising, all those sex ed classes did not prepare me for this when I was a teenager. For being so eager to lose my (heterosexual) virginity, that when we got to his bedroom and he said he wasn’t going to be able to stay hard with a condom on, I just went along with it. Of course, when I had sex with him 6 months later (and he knew I’d had other sexual partners in between) he had no problem using a condom.