Work stuff

[fandomnumbergenerator]

I am absolutely melting down from the stress of trying to find a new job. Not even necessarily the job search itself, but the stress of hiding it from my (paranoid and controlling but also absentee) boss.

And the certainty that the lab I work in will come to a grinding halt if both me and my coworker leave this summer. I am so deeply conflicting about only giving 2 weeks notice. But I have already talked to HR, and I have no contractual obligation to do more than that.

I started crying last night trying to figure out how to get the time off to go to a job interview.

And today my boss just didn't show up. No text. No email. Just not here. Again.

Comments

[lou2]

My most terrible boss from years ago hated women. He used to make the most snide comments, and even though we were engineers, as soon as his secretary took vacation, he plopped all her work on our desk because we were the only 2 women who worked for him. I just took family leave and never went back. So you're already way more ethical than I ever was.

If you haven't scheduled a bunch of appointments during work recently, try the doctor appointment excuse, then follow up appointments as necessary. Ulcer is always a good one because they can sometimes be hard to diagnose with the weird pains and symptoms that go with them. And also it sounds very reasonable for you right now.

If work doesn't know a lot about your family, a family member that's dependent on you, is also something that can work.

If you have personal days, those don't have to be explained at all. Those worked for my husband.

The best option though is probably just being really honest with whoever is interviewing you. Tell them you can only interview after hours, weekends, etc. They're already gonna want to know why you're looking for a new job, so this is a great way to make them understand how truly awful your work environment is.

No matter what you do, I wish you the absolute best. No one deserves to work in an environment like that.