Adults who live with their parents

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[In response to a thread about how outside the US, it is normal for adults to live with their parents, and that the US obsession with indivuality and the self-made-man normalizes young adults moving out of the house.]

I would be interested to hear, from young people who are living with their parents, how this effects sex and relationships.

So many of my relationships in my teens and early 20s were things that my mother was frankly not able to deal with – an open relationship with a cis woman which evolved into a polyamorous triad with a nonbinary person, a relationship with a trans woman, a relationship with a bisexual drug user, a relationship with a black man These were (and for the people who are still alive) still are very important people in my life, and my mother was pretty openly disapproving of all of them. I was so lucky to be able to leave for college at 17 and to not have to run away.

On the other hand, in my 30s, I lived with my now husband and his mother in a section 8 apartment in New York. Tobias needed to be living there to help his mother keep the apartment she had been living in for 25 years (when we moved to Boston, she had to move into a studio). And she was totally cool with us having sex in the bedroom next to hers, and it was never an issue (maybe because she’s Western European?). But, when we went to visit my grandmother, we had to sleep in separate rooms (until we got engaged).

And of course, when my mother and my mother-in-law get older, at least one of them will probably end up living with us. Though, again, I worry about how my mother will deal with my daughters when they are teenagers, since she already cries all the time because my older daughter is a tom boy.

Historically, men have been moving out of their parent’s houses (up to and including immigrating to America or moving thousands of miles across the country) for hundreds of years to get away from restrictive sexual rules. And now the option is available to women too.